Couples Therapy
“I don’t feel that I’m getting the love I need.”
I’ve worked so hard to make my life the way it is, but I feel so empty and lonely. Everything seems to be going okay, but I don’t feel the spark I used to. We’re so busy and the good time we spend together doesn’t seem to make up for the disconnection.
Often our partner is the person we most want love from, but sometimes feel most disconnected to when we need love most.
“My partner is driving me crazy!”
I don’t know how to get through a day without feeling triggered, angry, depressed, and withdrawn. If only my partner could just change or see things differently, everything would be better. I love my partner more than anything in the world, yet we feel so distant from each other.
Often the most sensitive parts of ourselves are triggered by the people closest to us.
“I’ve been betrayed.”
The pain of betrayal feels overwhelming. Trust has been broken.
Everything I thought I knew has been shattered, and all I’m left with are questions. I know there is no going back, but I don’t know how to move forward.
You need support and comfort as you navigate your heart and your life in taking steps forward.
“Is this relationship worth saving?”
I don’t know if I love my partner anymore. Maybe this relationship has run its course. You feel like completely different people from when you started. Are we compatible anymore?
You won’t really know until you explore.
The pain indicates that your relationship needs help.
You might just want to find an escape for the pain – something to make it better.
Avoiding conflict and just shutting down and doing the minimum to get you by.
You start to wonder if this relationship has run its course, and maybe that attractive coworker would make you feel alive again.
The key is taking responsibility for your own feelings…
In a relationship, the more you are aware of and can manage yourself, the more positive and healthier your relationship can be.
Often, we feel powerless when it comes to how our partner betrayed us or doesn’t understand us. The more we can understand our own motivations and needs, the more we can contribute to getting those needs met by our partner.
You can experience peace and clarity about yourself and your decisions even if the other person doesn’t change.
You can have intimacy and connection in your relationship.
“You don’t understand that I’m tired and don’t have the energy to cook dinner every night.”
It’s the same old conversations, but suddenly it hits you like a thunderbolt.
Maybe your partner is just as overwhelmed and feeling as lonely as you are.
You feel a rush of compassion and sadness. Maybe the person you love is in there somewhere, wanting to connect with you, too.
Remembering how in the first couple months of therapy feeling shocked that your partner still thought about that miscarriage every day, even though it had been two years. You haven’t thought too much about it; because when you do, you feel so powerless again. You still don’t know how to talk about it; but seeing your partner sitting next to you, it’s clear that you want to be there for them somehow.
Therapy with your partner can help you understand your deeper motivations and how they are coming up between the two of you in healthy or unhealthy ways. I use a combination of evidence-based models tailored to you, because each couple has unique dynamics and needs.
Getting proactive with premarital counseling…
Want to avoid some of the relationship pitfalls presented above? I can help you – with a proven pre-marital program based on the Gottman Institute, one of the leading research experts in relationships.
Every relationship is going to have its ups and downs, so getting yourself ready is one of the best gifts you can give yourself and your partner.
In premarital counseling, you’ll intentionally explore yourself and your partner by looking at your own personal history and approaching your partner’s with compassion. You will strategically have conversations about communication, conflict, finances, future dreams and more that will fortify your relationship for a lifetime of love.
Greater fulfillment is waiting for you…
This is your chance to do something for yourself… and your partner.
Together, let’s find your way to meaning and purpose in your relationship. You don’t have to live another day feeling disconnected and wondering if there is more, you can find clarity around the next steps to have the thrill and safety of intimacy.
Call me today at (970) 456-1606 to get started on your journey of connection and intimacy.